Welcome Susannah. Your best shot at regular trips is a club, you also get the benefit of free quality training. The pandemic has hit the trips fairly hard in all clubs. This club - http://www.subaru4wdclub.com/welcome-to-the-subaru-and-recreational-4wd-club.html usually has trips from easy to hard, day trips to long expeditions, and there are quite a few female drivers. There's a cluster of members including the president in your area.